Betty & Boobies

One thing I’ve never done and harbour a mild desire to do is actually meet other cross-dressers. I’ve seen photos online of them meeting up so I know it happens. I’ve also read it in a book I got not long after I confessed to my wife. It was called ‘My Husband Betty’ and it was written under the pseudonym Helen Boyd by the wife of a cd in America. It seemed like a good idea at the time – I thought we could both read it and it could maybe put our minds at ease a little. Demystify it as it were. I elected to read it first as I have more opportunities to read than my wife who is often running around after our daughter and running a household. Also I felt I should vet it in some way as I had the feeling it may not do what I thought it would. It made for insightful and uncomfortable reading at times. Some of it didn’t really apply to me which I expected  as I guess the author was painting a very broad picture.



I was particularly intrigued by the concept of ‘girl substitution’. I didn’t have a girlfriend until my late teens and I think I may have done that on and off for a while prior to that. What I mean is that in the absence of a girlfriend I effectively created my own – though I didn’t get to spend as much time with her as I’d have liked. I read the whole book in a matter of days, even the bits that I didn’t think I needed to. My wife made a start on it but it seemed to make her uncomfortable. What must have been going through her mind? She may have wondered how much I have played it down for her. She would only read it when I was nearby. I don’t suppose it helped that ‘Betty’, the husband in the book, actually began to transition some time after the book was published and that is the subject of another tome entitled ‘She’s not the man I married’. Suffice to say my wife never got past the first couple of chapters and where I thought there’d be frank and adult discussion there was nothing. At that point for perhaps selfish reasons it made me wish I’d told her a lot earlier. We could have went shopping together without the kids (as there would have been none then) and I could have dressed more about the house with ease and without anxiety and that bastard guilt. I do try not to dwell on these things so I can live in the now. Everyone’s allowed a harmless bit of introspection now and then I think. I can look back and see there are stages I have gone through and every so often the ante gets upped. I liken it to when I got into Pink Floyd and eventually had all the albums and a healthy stack of bootlegs. From one CD grew a whole collection. I don’t suppose meeting with others is on the cards any time soon.



The next landmark will definitely be the breast forms I ordered off Amazon last week, they’re a C cup if you’re interested. I cannot wait to get my grubby little hands on them. I’ve been looking for the package every night this week when I’ve arrived home. I really can’t wait to put them in place in a nice bra with a freshly shaved chest. I don’t think I can fully rest till they’re here, they’re probably the riskiest thing I’ve ever ordered. Wigs, corsets and underwear ain’t got nothing on these bad boys. It’s a new company that’s selling them and they don’t have a rating yet so I really hope I’m not their first mistake.


9 thoughts on “Betty & Boobies

  1. Candy Kowal

    Gosh, being there for the family as a husband first will show the wife your not someone who doesn’t love her. It takes time for it all to sort out in a understanding way. Sometime those books that try to make our wives conform does more harm than good.
    As far as getting out, it helps to be in a TG friendly metropolis. I have a wife who doesn’t know and have been out many times.
    It works for the both of us as I think she suspects but doesn’t want to know.
    The girls I have met are very supportive and friendly in a non sexual way.
    I love going out looking pretty and feminine, it really is the next phase you will ultimately desire to experience.

    1. Anna Secret-Poet Post author

      Greetings Candy, it’s an absolute pleasure to make your digital acquaintance! You look fabulous and thank you for getting in touch. I’ve only had this page for a couple of months and this is me just getting to grips with it. I’m especially enjoying the chance to confer with other ‘girls’ – my facebook’s days are numbered. Too many creeps.

  2. Pat Scales

    I just came across your blog. We have a lot in common although I venture to guess that I am about a generation older than you are. I too see myself as having lot of fun with my dressing…although I am now too old to look too good and really need to drop some weight. I adopted the name Pat from my initials about 20+ years ago when I joined Tri-Ess which is a stateside organization for hetero CDs. I know that there are many CDs and other Trans folks who feel very strongly that they have a female identity. I pretty much have always liked myself as a guy. I love my bride of 41 years and I think we did a decent job raising two fine children.
    Now that the kids are gone I can indulge my dressing around the house a bit more and I do try to get out of the house to T safe places. At my age, height (6’1″) and weight (250 lbs) I do not live in fool’s paradise and think that I can pass as a woman so I do what I can to blend in as a large old dude in a dress.

    1. Anna Secret-Poet Post author

      It’s great to hear from you Pat! I often wonder what my future holds with regards to my habit. Will I still be dressing many years down the line? (although I’m pretty certain I will, it never really goes away does it?). Hope you have a great weekend! X

  3. gerrylynn

    Well Anna. I have stumbled across this old blog entry whilst searching for crossdressers wearing breast forms. Today i am about to go and collect my first ever breast forms and I share your excitement to get and try them. I have previously steered very firmly away from taking this step, so deeply am I in the closet and for so long butI appear to be feminising more than I have ever done having only just resumed crossdressing after almost a year off but thing are ramping up.

    It was good to read your entry as a result.must go and pick up my parcel!

    1. Anna Secret Poet Post author

      Wow that’s exciting! I’m on my second pair now as one of my old boobs developed a split 😦 I fixed it with loads of glue and they are now my ‘Stunt Boobs’ 😄. I hope you enjoy them and by the way it’s great to hear your back xxx


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